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“Why is my child lying?” — Tatyana asked me this question.
Why do children start to lie and how to react to it?
Deception is hiding the truth in order to obtain a certain benefit.
And the benefits are always different, but children more often resort to deception to protect themselves. I propose to look at lies, not as a park. But as a way to take care of yourself. After all, we are talking about children. And if this is under 7 years of age, then we definitely have to talk about clearly deliberate lies for some terrible purpose. And if so, then you as parents should think about what kind of atmosphere reigns in your family? What values do you instill in your children and how do you do it? Some of this is definitely worth changing.
Children who do not feel safe, comfortable, confident and calm lie much more often. And every child’s lie says something, it is important to be able to interpret it correctly!
The main reasons why a child lies
“I’m afraid that I will be punished”
Fear of punishment is one of the most common motives for lying. This is especially true in those families where parents are too demanding of their child. They use physical and psychological violence against a child as a measure of “education.” When mom and dad cannot perceive their…
